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Perfectionism is Self-Sabotaging

Perfectionism is Self-Sabotaging

Perfectionism and striving for perfection is merely a shield a lot of perfectionists hide behind. Seeking wholeness is a road trodden by millions of unwary people of which its essence is no more than earning acceptance and approval.

 Sometimes these perfectionists only step on the threshold of success because they work hard demonstrating the right behaviors and etiquettes or craving for compliments and praise for their achievements and performances.

Perfectionism is mechanism we use to get protected from certain potential pain that might be gained by others saying that we are not good enough or can’t live up to their expectations.

What we don’t realize is that we sabotage ourselves and our efforts trying to be the best. We just get too exhausted always trying so hard to get thumbs up. Research says that perfectionism actually hampers success and chains us because of being outwardly influenced by media that often makes us believe we are not perfect enough.

Being imperfectly perfect sets us free and make us embrace our imperfections. It teaches us modesty and how to let go of what we perceive others think of us and simply fall in love with who we truly are. 


Here’s Why Some People Are Talkative

Some people are so talkative and it’s easy for them to make and lead non-stop conversations with others whereas others find it so difficult and hard to make a conversation with people. At the end of the day, you just wish you could be talkative just like them.

Those talkative people often seem to never worry about what they utter. They seem to be so self-confident and they seldom think of what others think of them because they have good self esteem.

Another reason why a great number of those people who talk so much like machines is they are born extroverts. They probably grew up around other people like in my part of the world where I live in a very crowded place. They easily get outgoing and they enjoy being surrounded by others rather than being alone.

There is also insensitivity when it comes to social cues particularly when they don’t pay enough attention or listen to the other person, not to mention how arrogant these talkative people may be. They are sometimes very conceited with their own haughtiness and their own sense of self importance.

You might be considered a talkative person in the eyes of others too, and the way to get a better balanced conversation is to learn how to pay more attention to your behavior during conversations and leave more space for others to participate in talking.

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If The Doctor Is Cute, Screw The Fruit. Lets Shake Our Body

They say that an apple a day keeps the doctor away, but if the doctor is cute screw the fruit. Some people believe that having a balanced diet is enough to sharpen your brain and make it very dynamic and well functioning. But for me, I do believe that the fastest way to mentally reach your absolute peak is through shaking that body.

The brain and the body both are two components of a single entity. They both go together and can never be separated. But why work out the body if the brain is the target?

As an athlete growing up practicing Taekwondo every other day or so since I was a kid back then in 1995. I can tell from a professional perspective that an apple Might be nothing compared to regular physical exercising.

Here are some scientific proofs to defend my thesis. Many scientific tests conducted on animals and human beings themselves found that the brain is nourished by the blood coming straight through arteries, pumped by the heart. Not only that but here are some other benefits:

Exercising makes the blood carry the nutrients and oxygen that your brain and cells need to burn for fuel.

Exercising helps lower the blood pressure and reduces levels of artery-clogging cholesterol.

Exercising improves circulation of blood within the brain

Exercising relieve depression and improves the mood and confidence.

It strengthens the heart and keeps blood sugar level balanced especially for diabetics.

On top of all of this, Exercising boosts the nerve production which makes the brain cells form new connections with each other.

It’s therefore very important that we choose some fun exercises we love to do that would push our heart’s rate 50% faster than our rate at normal days because that will definitely benefit the heart and the lungs and our whole body system. And after a short period of time we will feel mentally and physically more energized and friskier than ever.

But to top it all, I am not a fan of an apple a day keeps the doctor way. Rather I am a fan of having a romp between the sheets.

The Red “Alone But Never Lonely” Flag


Paradoxically, many human beings in today’s world have mastered the art of filling their hollow lives at the expense of the eerie silence. And sometimes, Alone but not lonely is a flag that we raise and cherish without realizing that’s it’s a red flag.

When we fall in that circle, we tend to try find ourselves means of distraction that will result in driving us slightly away from feelings of inaction and boredom. But the main wish to elude loneliness sticks and goes along the way with us side by side.

Loneliness and solitude are two distinct terms. Not to be mistaken, there’s an ocean of difference between the two. Solitude is when you freely decide to take some time out for your peace of mind whether you have a great deal of friends or not. Loneliness on the other hand is being without companions, it’s a no-choice situation, because you are either shy or you don’t have socializing tools.

In many places, there is for instance a certain category of youngsters who fall in the bad cliques pitfalls just for the sake of killing their time. Likewise, there are some single women who just literally date any man they have no genuine interest in while they hopefully await their alleged Mr. Right to show up.

Alone but never lonely must rather be a flag that radiates good omen. The silence we experience in our isolation should be a golden lesson for us that teaches us how to effectively listen to our inner voice and what’s going on in our deep down. It’s only then we can have the right and favorable space and time to think and react without being outwardly influenced.